#32 “Disrupting the Bystander” (Handling Harm in Our Communities)

The Pod Pod Cvlt Cast discusses A.V Flox's book, Disrupting the Bystander, and how the BDSM and Polyamory communities can use it to heal harm #metoo

Summary

Policing harm in the polyamory and BDSM communities can be challenging. When consent is violated, when people are assaulted, when people commit assault… we often shy away from victim and perpetrator. In A.V. Flox’s important first book, Disrupting the Bystander: When #metoo Happens Among Friends, we learn that we should do the opposite. We should surround people who have been harmed and people who harm with our human spirit to help them find space to heal.

In this episode we discuss the book and the process of care it outlines for ourselves, for those harmed, and yes, for those who have harmed others.

Content Warning: This episode contains discussion of assault, rape, bad actors, and how unsafe we really are in our “communities” without having each other’s back.

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